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Ibintu 5 wabwira umukobwa mukundana bigatuma agukunda byimazeyo ndetse akakwiyumvamo bidasanzwe

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Bamwe mu bagabo bagakwiye kumenya amagambo bakwiye kubwira abakunzi babo amagambo meza atuma bakomeza gushimangira urukundo rwabo. Igitsina gore gikunze cyane gushimishwa n’amagambo aryohereye babwirwa n’abakunzi babo ku bijyanye nuko bababona ndetse n’uko bitwara iyo bari kumwe n’abakunzi babo.

YEGOB twabakusanyirije ibintu 5 by’ingenzi wabwira umukobwa mukundana akarushaho kukwiyumvamo no kugukunda birushijeho.

1.Nakwigiyeho byinshi

Abagore n’abakobwa barabikunda cyane iyo abagabo babashimiye ku bwenge bwabo kuko birabababaza cyane iyo icyo mwibonera ari ubwiza bw’inyuma gusa. Aba ashaka no kuzana ibitekerezo byubaka kandi iyo umweretse ko hari icyo byakwigishije kuko wabyitayeho kandi ukabyiga neza bikakugirira akamaro biramunezeza kumva ubimubwira.

2.Uri Inshuti nziza

Erega musore, umukobwa mukundana ntashaka kuba umukunzi wawe gusa, ahubwo anashaka kukubera inshuti magara kandi kumubwira ko ari inshuti nziza biramunezeza. Nagira ibyo agufasha gukora, uzakoreshe aka kajambo n’ubwo yaba yagufashije akantu gato.

3.Uri Umwamikazi wanjye

Kuri bamwe iki cyakumvikana nk’umutoma, ariko si ko biri ahubwo buri mugore aba yumva ashaka kuba umutima w’umugabo we, kumubwira ko ari umwamikazi wawe bituma yumva agaciro umuha kandi akumva ko ariwe mugore gusa witayeho. Ibi bizamunezereza umutima mu buryo budasanzwe.

4.Ufite amaso, amenyo, umusatsi, iminwa,..byiza

Mwa basore mwe, ntituri kureba ku mitoma hano ahubwo turi kurasa ku ntego ugendeye ku cyo ukunda kuri we. Utazamubwira ko umusatsi we ari mwiza kandi asutse. Utazamubwira ikintu gihabanye n’ukuri kuko wabisomye muri iyi nkuru uyobowe n’amarangamutima gusa. Niba ukunda amaso ye, umusatsi we, intoki ze, uko aseka,…bimubwire kuko bituma abona ko ujya umwitaho kuba warabibonye.

5.Uhora usa neza

Wari wabona umukobwa ari kwambara? Ni ukuri kose abakobwa barushywa cyane no guhitamo umwenda wo kwambara. Iyo umubwiye ko asa neza mu myambaro yambaye bituma yumva ko cya gihe cyose yafashe ahitamo ibyo kwambara atagipfushije ubusa, cyane cyane iyo mugiye kujya ahantu muri kumwe. Biramunezeza cyane kubimubwira ko asa neza.

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Ibintu by’Ingenzi byakwereka umugabo uzi kwitwara neza mu buriri.

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Burya gukora urukundo rwo mu buriri ni kimwe mu byongera umubano w’abakundana bikaba akarusha rero iyo buri umwe yishimiye iki gikorwa.

By’umwihariko ariko umugabo, ni we ugomba gufata iyambere agashimisha umugore we, kugirango nawe abashe kunyurwa nubwo bombi ari magirirane.Hano twaguteguriye bimwe mu bikorwa umugabo yakora bikereka umugore we ko ashobora kwitwara neza mu gitanda:

1.Kwinyonga :

Umugabo w’ umuhanga mu gutera akabariro iyo muri mu mibonano mpuzabitsina yiyegereza umugore we neza ubundi akamugwamo wese ku buryo mu gihe muri gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina agerageza akazanjya yinyonga kuburyo umugore nawe yumva nkaho ari gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina mu muziki.

2.Agusoma buhoro :

Niba umugabo agize atya agafungura umunwa we agiye gusoma umugore we,ururimi rwe agomba kurutosa ndetse akamusomana umutuzo adahubuka.Kandi iyo agiye kumusoma agerageza gufata umunwa umwe kuri umwe hanyuma ururimi rwahura n’urwe agasa n’umwenyuramo,icyo gihe umugore we aba yumva yashize ndetse ari nako agenda aryoherwa.

3.Atuma umugore we yiyumvamo ubwiza :

Nta shobora kubwira umugore we ko aryoshye wapi,ahubwo uko agenda amukora kora cyangwa amwiyegereza,niko umugore nawe agenda yiyumvamo ko ateye neza,Ikindi uburyo umugabo arebamo umugore bimutera gushaka gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina,kandi uko avuga umugabo niko umugore agenda yumva ari gushira,bimutera ibyiyumviro bindi.

4.Ashyira amaboko ye mu bice by’ingenzi by’umugore we :

Ubundi hari abazi ko gukorakora hagati y’amaguru y’umugore aribyo bintu bituma nawe ashaka gukora imibonano mpuzaitsina,hoya !Ahubwo icyerekana umugabo uzi gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina,nuko mu gihe ari gusomana n’umugore we,atangira k’umukorakora mu mutwe ubundi agatangira gufata imisatsi yawe,ayiguya guya buhoro buhoro ndetse akagera no ku matwi ayakorakora buhoro buhoro.

5.Ntanjya avuga ku byerekeranye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina :

Ubundi hariho abagabo bagira gutya bakabwira abagore babo ngo bakore rwa rukundo row mu buriri ,ariko umugabo uzi kubikora neza, ujya kumva atangiye kugukorakoraho kugeza igihe nawe yumva koko agiye muri bya bihe yumva ashatse gukora iyo mibonano ,muri make ibikorwa birigaragaza n’uburyo agenda agukorakora.

6.Azi kuyobora ibitekerezo by’umugore :

Abagore benshi bumva ko niba umugabo atazi kumenya niba umugore ashaka gukora imibonano atiriwe abivuga uwo nta mugabo umurimo.Umugabo uzi icyo gukora ni wawundi umenya ko umugore ashaka gukora icyo gikorwa, ubundi nawe agahita amenya uburyo amutwaramo.

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Ibintu ukwiye kugendera kure mu gihe ushaka kurushinga.

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Iyo uri mu rukundo, hari byinshi uhindura mu myitwarire yawe kugirango urusheho kugenda wigarurira umukunzi wawe ariko uko urukundo rwanyu rugenda rukura niko mugenda murushaho kumenyerana buri umwe akagenda amenya ingeso undi afite ari nako mugenda mufashanya kuba mwahindura zimwe muri izo ngeso zishobora kuba zitajyanye n’ibyo mwifuza.

Nk’uko abahanga mu by’imibanire babivuga, ngo iyo wegereje igihe cyo gusezerana n’uwo ukunda hari ibintu byinshi ugomba kureka mbere y’uko murushinga kuko bishobora kwica umubano wanyu.

1. Ugomba kwirinda icyatuma ugwa mu mutego wo gusambana.

Buri gihe ugomba guhora wibuka ko uri hafi gusezerana, ibi bikagufasha kwirinda kuba wahura n’umuntu mudahuje igitsina muri ahantu h’ibanga kuko bishobora kuba byakugusha mu busambanyi ugatangira guca inyuma uwo mukundana kandi mutarabana. Rero ugomba kubireka ahubwo ukarushaho guha umwanya uwo mugiye kurushinga.

2. Reka gutekereza ko uri umuyobozi igihe uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe.

Iyo uri hafi kurushinga haba hakiri itandukaniro no kuba wararangije kubana n’uwo ukunda. Wigerageza gutegeka umukunzi wawe ngo ukomeze kumugaragariza ko nta kintu yafataho umwanzuro igihe muri kumwe. Ibi si byiza kuko bimuca intege akumva ko ari umunyantege nke. Gerageza ugaragaze ko muri ku rugero rumwe mu byo mukora byose.

3. Reka kumva amabwire.

Iyi ni inama ikomeye ugirwa kuko akenshi haba hari benshi batifuza ko wabana n’umukunzi wawe. Ugomba rero gushyiramo ugushishoza kuko haba inshuti zawe, ndetse n’abandi benshi bazajya bakugira inama ariko siko bose bazaba bakwifuriza ibyiza. Menya gufata imyanzuro ku byo wemera ndetse n’ibyo uhakana.

4. Reka kumena amabanga y’urukundo rwawe.

Buri gihe hagomba kuba hari amabanga hagati yanyu ajyanye n’urukundo. Igihe uri hafi gusezerana rero irinde kuba wagenda ubwira inshuti zawe ibyo uba waganiriye n’umukunzi wawe. Akenshi uzasanga abantu bifuza kumenya ibyanyu ariko si ngombwa ko ubibabwiraho.

5. Irinde icyagabanya igipimo urukundo rwanyu ruriho.

Ntabwo ari byiza kwiyumvisha ko kuba mwaramaze kwemeranya kubana bihagije, ngo maze ugende witurize kuko ibingibi byatuma urukundo rwanyu rusubira inyuma bikaba byakurizaho no kuba rwazima burundu. Inama ugirwa ahangaha ni ukurushaho gukunda no kwita ku wo mugiye kurushinga kuko aribyo bizatuma mubana mu munezero.

6. Gendera kure ibitekerezo byo gukeka cyane.

Gushaka gukekera umuntu ni kimwe mu bintu byakwangiza umubano wanyu. Gira umuco wo kubaza uwo mugiye kubana kuri buri kintu wumva urimo gushidikanyaho, umubaze wimenyere ukuri bitabaye ngombwa ko utangira kwihimbira ukeka ibishobora kuba bihabanye n’ukuri.

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Uburyo 4 bwagufasha gucika kungeso yo guca inyuma umukunzi wawe

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Guca inyuma umukunzi wawe cyangwa uwo mwashakanye si ibintu byiza mu mubano, akenshi bigira ingaruka mu rukundo no muryango zishobora no gutuma umwe mu bagize urugo yihimura akaba yasiga urugo cyangwa se aho birengeje akaba yakwiyambura ubuzima.

Bishobora kukubaho utabigambiriye, aho iki kibazo gishobora kubonerwa umuti ubuzima bugasubira ku murong, ariko bikaba ibindi iyo hjemo ingeso, ugasanga ubikora asa n’uwabaswe n’iyo ngeso itari nziza na mba mu mubano w’abakundana n’abashakanye.

Ni gute rero watera umugongo icyo kibazo ngo ubashe kugira umubano mwiza n’uwo mukundana? hano kuri Ibazenawe, twabateguriye uburyo 4 bwafasha gucika ku ngeso yo gucana inyuma haba ku mukobwa/umusore cyangwa se ku bashakanye.

1. Sobanukirwa neza ko ufite ikibazo.

Gusobanukirwa neza, iyo wamaze kumenya neza kandi ugafata ingeso yo gucana inyuma ari ingeso mbi kandi ari ikibazo mu rukundo rwawe, kibangamira iterambere ry’umubano, ni intambwe ya mbere yo kubasha gutsinda iki kigeragezo cyakubase. Tangira gusenya imyumvire ipfuye mu mutwe wawe, imyumvire ikuganisha kuri icyo kibi, maze utangire kumva ko atari ikibazo gikwiye kukunesha, wumve ko udakwiye kubisubira na rimwe.

2. Shaka umukunzi wiyumvamo mu mpande zose.

Ukwiye gushaka umukunzi ugukurura mu buryo bwose, bwaba ubw’imitekerereze ye, uburanga, n’uko agaragara inyuma ku buryo uzajya ubona nta wundi muntu wamuruta mu isi yose , mbese hitamo wa wundi wishimira kurenza abandi bose.

3. Umva ko nta mwiza wabuze inenge.

Ntabwo wabona umuntu uri mwiza imbere n’inyuma, mu bintu byose 100%, uburanga n’ubwenge. ibuka ko turi abantu kandi kandi nta muntu ubura inenge n’imwe. Niba ufite umukunzi mwiza, wibuke ko ashobora kugenda mu nzira agasitara, bikaba byaba ngombwa ko yivuza akagira inkovu yangiza uburanga bwe. kandi nawe ubwawe wibuke ko utaremye mu buryo utagira inenge n’imwe, umuntu ni nk’undi.

4. Saba ubujyanama.

Niba warabaswe n’ingeso yo guca inyuma umukunzi wawe, ukaba ubona utabasha kubireke ngo bigushobokere egera abazi cyane ibyerekeye umubano babigize umwuga bagufashe.

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Aya niyo mategeko 10 agenga urukundo

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Abantu babona urukundo mu buryo butandukanye ariko urukundo ruri mu gice cya muntu kitagaragara bityo rero rukaba rushobora kugaragara mu bikorwa bya muntu gusa. mu rukundo mugomba kuzuzanya, ariko niba umwe mu bakundana asa n’uwudashima imyigoro y’undi, bivuze ko muvuga “indimi zitandukanye ku bijanye n’urukundo.

Ibazenawe nkuko rimwe na rimwe isanzwe ibikora, yabateguriye amwe mu mategeko twavuga wakwifashisha mu rukundo kugirango rurusheho kuryohera abarurimo, 10 muri ayo akaba ari aya akurikira:

1. Ntuzahendahendere umuntu kugukunda cyangwa kukwitaho (affection) kuko bigira agaciro iyo nyiri ukubikora bimwiviriye ku mutima.

2. Ntuzabeshye uwo ukunda ngo akunde yishime, ikiruta uzamubwize ukuri ababare.

3. Ntuzarindire ko uwo ukunda akenera ko umufasha, ahubwo uzanamufashe mbere y’uko abikenera

4. Ntuzigere wibagirwa umukunzi wawe mu gihe yaguhaye byinshi utagomba kwibagirwa.

5. Ntuzarutishe amafaranga urukundo, kuko hari ibyo urukundo nyarwo rutanga amafaranga atabasha kugura.

6. Ntuzakunde umuntu ku bw’impuhwe, ahubwo uzamugirire impuhwe ku bw’urukundo!

7. Urajye ucyaha uwo ukunda mwiherereye nimugera mu ruhame umurengere!

8. Urajye ushimishwa n’uko uwo ukunda akundwa n’abandi akabyitwaramo neza, kuko ni ikimenyetso cy’uko yakurutishije benshi.

9. Ntuzagishe inama abandi y’uwo ukwiye gukunda ikiruta uzabagishe inama y’uko ukwiye kumukunda.

10. Ntugahamye ko ushimisha uwo ukunda uko bikwiye ahubwo uzabihamirizwa na nyirubwite.

Si aya gusa kuko buri umwe wese ashobora kwiyongereraho aye bitewe nuko yiyumva, uko afata urukundo, ndetse n’icyo yifuza kuvana muri icyo gikorwa cyo gukunda.

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Mukobwa, nubona umugabo ufite iyi myitwarire ntuzatume aguca mu myanya y’intoki

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Nk’uko bigaragara mu mafilime no mu nkuru z’urukundo, urukundo rwaduteye kwizera ko umugabo ukunda umugore we by’ukuri agomba kumuha indabyo n’imitako, agakora ibintu bisa n’ubusazi ariko iyo ukuri kutugezeho, akenshi twibwira ko bishoboka ko tutazabona urukundo nyarwo.

Nyamara Urukundo nyarwo kandi ruvuye ku mutima rurahari, muri iyi nkuru twabateguriye imico umukobwa akwiye kubona ku musore, akaba atareka ngo umucike kuko yazavamo umugabo umukunda by’ukuri.

1. Akoresha ijambo”twebwe”: Niba umugabo wawe akoresha insimburazina “twebwe” aho gukoresha “Njyewe” iyo avuga imigambi ye, ejo hazaza he, cyangwa imishinga ye, bivuze ko ibyo ateganya kugeraho byose nawe urimo kubera ko ntacyo yifuza kuzageraho mutari kumwe niyo mpamvu abikumenyesha.

2. Aragutetesha: Niba agufata nk’ikiremwa cy’Imana, agakora ibishoboka byose kugira ngo agushimishe, kandi agushyira imbere muri byose, menya neza ko wahuye n’umugabo mwiza.

3. Aguhora hafi iteka: Yego si buri gihe ariko iyo hagize akantu gato kaguhungabanya afata umwanya wo kugira ngo umubone nk’intwari yawe, uyu mwanya rero ntukawumwime kuko bimuha amahirwe yo kumva ko akurinze.

4. Agira indoro yihariye iyo akubonye: Burya indoro yoroshye ivuga byose, witondere uko akureba kuko urukundo ruba mu jisho.

5. Uri umwizerwa we: Ni wowe wa mbere ahamagara mu gihe afite amakuru yo kuvuga, mu gihe yumva amerewe nabi, cyangwa mu gihe ashaka kuvuga. Wowe soko ye ya mbere (cyangwa yonyine) ihumure, inshuti ye magara, ubusitani bwe bw’ibanga… uko byagenda kose, amagambo yawe azamufasha kuruta undi wese.

6.Abandi bantu bazakubwira ubwiza bwe: Niba ugishidikanya ku bunyangamugayo bwa mugenzi wawe, baza inshuti n’umuryango. Umuryango wawe n’inshuti bazabyemeza. Niba bamukunze ndetse bagahora bakwibutsa ko wagize neza kumugumisha iruhande rwawe iteka. Ntukemere ko umugabo umeze utyo aguca mu myanya y’intoki. Izere m umutima wawe kandi witegure kubona urukundo rukomeye

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