Hari igihe umuntu agira ikibazo mu rukundo akifuza kugisha inama inshuti yizeye ,aho kumugira inama yubaka ahubwo zikamuroha nkuko inkuru ya Elcrema ibivuga.
Dore inshuti ukwiriye kwitondera kugisha inama :
1.Utamarana n’umukunzi kabiri
Bene ya nshuti yawe ihora ihindaguranganya abakunzi ashobora kutakugira inama nzima kuko kuri we ashobora kuba atekereza ko igihe ikibazo kihe hagati yawe n’uwo mukundana nta mpamvu yo kwivuna ahubwo wahindura ugashaka undi. Kandi mu by’ukuri n’abanyarwanda baravuga ngo nta zibana zidakomanya amahembe.
2.Utemera ko urukundo rubaho
Burya mu nshuti ushobora kugira umwe utemera ko n’urukundo rubaho. Bene uwo ashobora kukugira inama itariyo mu by’urukundo kuko n’ubundi we ntarwemera, ntaruha uburemere.
3.Utajya abika ibanga
Uyu na we nukumugendera kure nah’ubundi wazasanga inkuru yawe izwi n’abantu bose. Burya umuntu utazi kubika ibanga kandi ugira amagambo umubwirwa n’uko nawe akubwira amabanga y’abandi kandi utanayamubajije. Umuntu wicara akakubwira ubuzima bwa runaka cyangwA ibyabaye kuri runaka nawe igihe mutari kumwe ibyawe azabibwira abandi.
4.Umunyeshyari
Umuntu wiyita inshuti yawe ariko akakugirira ishyari ujye umugendera kure kandi inama ze ujye uzitondera. Umuntu wiyita inshuti yawe ariko wamubwira ikintu cyiza cyakubayeho aho kugirango afatanye nawe mu byishimo agahita ashakisha Ikindi kintu kuri we cyiza kurusha ibyawe. Mbese buri gihe agashakisha uburyo ibye byaba ari byiza kurenza ibyawe uwo nta nshuti imurimo ahubwo ni umunyeshyari.
5.Umuntu wumva ko azi ibintu byose kandi ko atajya yibeshya
Bene wa muntu uhora yumva ko ahora mukuri, ko ibye bihora ari bizima kandi ko atajya yibeshya ashobora kuba ari umuntu utazi gusesengura neza kandi udaca bugufi. Bene uwo nawe inama ze nukuzitondera kuko zishobora kukuyobya.