HARAGIRIMANA Dieudonne
Ubusanzwe mu muco nyarwanda, umusore niwe ugomba gutera intambwe ya mbere agasaba ndetse agasohokana umukobwa bakundana. Ni ubwo kuri ubu hari abakobwa bitabuza kwikora ku mufuka bagasohokana abasore bakundana
Mu rukundo rwanyu umusore mukundana akora uko ashoboye ngo akugaragarize ko agukunda ariko mu gihe cyose mumaranye ntaragusaba ko mwasohokana. Haba kujyana mu minsi mikuru, gusohokana mukagira ahantu mwicara mugafata kamwe mukaganira ku rukundo rwanyu,kugusohokana mu birori runaka n’ahandi.
Muri rusange ntarigera na rimwe agusohokana ahantu hateraniye abantu benshi . Wibaza impamvu ariko byarakuyobeye. Hari impamvu nyinshi zishobora kuba zituma yifata akaba ataragusohokana . Zimwe muri izo mpamvu zishobora kuba zibitera nizo tugiye kurebera hamwe:
1.Ufatwa vuba
Ushobora kuba uri umukobwa woroshye,utazi guhakanira abasoren’abagabo baza kugutereta. Kuba rero yagusohokana,abona ko bashobora kumugutwara ariwe wakwijyaniye. Bikaba nka wa mugabo wasohokanye umugore we muri hoteli Kiyovu ,bikarangira amubwiye ngo yitahane, yabonye abandi bamwitaho.Umugabo agataha aririmba urwo abonye. Iyi mpamvu ituma yumva mwakomeza gukundana ariko gusohoka akabyirinda ngo hato aho hatazagira undi uha urukundo ukamuca mu myanya y’intoki ariwe ubyikururiye.
2.Ntabimenyereye
Ashobora kuba atamenyereye gusohokana n’abakobwa. Nubwo abakobwa aribo bagira amasoni,hari n’abahungu bazigira. Kugusohokana nacyo ni igikorwa kimutera isoni. Ikindi gishobora kubitera ni uko atamenyereye gutereta. Uri umukobwa wa mbere akundanye na we cyangwa se na bake bakundanye ntawe yigeze asohokana.
3.Ntabwo yizera ko ari we ukunda gusa
Umusore mukundana ashobora kuba akeka cyangwa abona atari we wenyine mukundana. Kubera iyo mpamvu atekereza ko kugusohokana byaba ari uguta igihe cyangwa kwiha amenyo y’abasetsi, gusohokana n’umukobwa ukundwa n’abasore benshi.
4.Ntumuteye ishema (Presentable)
Iyo umusore asohokanye n’umukobwa bigira impamvu nyinshi. Kumugaragariza urukundo ni imwe murizo. Burya ariko ahanini hiyongeraho ni uko aba ashaka kwereka rubanda ko afite umukobwa atereta,bakundana w’igitangaza,mwiza, ukeye,..
Kuba rero abona wamuhesha amanota mabi ,ahitamo kugufata nk’igitegwajoro (Umukobwa udafite igikundiro kuburyo wamusohokana). Ushobora kwibaza uti ese ni ukubera iki ankunda kandi abona ntamuhesha ishema? Impamvu ni nyinshi zabitera. Ariko ahanini aba afite icyo agukurikiyeho kitari urukundo nk’uko wowe ubyibwira: Akeneye ko muryamana gusa, agukurikiyeho amafaranga cyangwa ubutunzi ufite, abona uhobora kumufahsa kubona akazi cyangwa kuzamurwa mu ntera ,
5.Ntiwamubwiye ko ubikunda
Hari abahungu bibera aho bagategereza ko umukobwa ababwira icyo ashaka ko amukorera. Kuba mukundanye igihe,akaba ataribwirije, nawe ukaba utaramubwiye ko bigushimisha kandi bikunyura,nayo ni impamvu ishobora kuba yarabiteye.
6.Ategereje igihe cya nyacyo
Abasore bamwe na bamwe bagenza ibintu gahoro cyane. Kuri we afite igihe yabigeneye abona gikwiriye. Ashobora no kuba ari kwiga ukuntu yazabigenza kikazakubera igikorwa cy’urukundo kizagushimisha ndetse uzahora wibuka ubuzima bwawe bwose.
7.Nta gahunda ihamye agufiteho
Gusohokana n’umuhungu cyangwa umukobwa bisobanura byinshi. Bumwe mu butumwa bw’ingenzi muba muha abahisi n’abagenzi ni uko mukundana kandi buri umwe muri mwe yafashwe. Kuri we ,kubera ko ntagahunda ihamye agufiteho,yanga kugusohokana ngo atisibira amayira. Ntaba ashaka ko abandi bakobwa babona ko hari uwo yihebeye.
8.Afite abandi
Iyi ni imwe mu mpamvu ishobora gutuma umuhungu mukundanye igihe atajya afata umwanya ngo agusohokane. Kuba afite abandi bakobwa akunda cyangwa bamukunda,bishobora kuba impamvu ifatika idatuma agusohokana. Akaba ashaka kukwereka urukundo ariko ntibimenyekane hanze.
