HARAGIRIMANA Dieudonne
Uru ni urutonde rwa bimwe mu bintu byatuma umukobwa azinukwa umusore burundu , musore nawe ukaba ugomba kubyirinda kugira ngo ugire urukundo ruhamye utazabura umugore kubera izi ngeso.
1.Ntujya uha umwanya wa mbere umukobwa ukunda
Uhora wumva umukobwa mukundana yaza ku mwanya wa nyuma mu bintu byose ukora , ibi bizatuma uhora utandukana n’abakobwa mukundana ndetse no kubona uwo mwashakana bibe ikibazo gikomeye.
2.Umusore utagaguza
Ikindi kintu abakobwa banga ni ukubona umusore utagaguza amafaranga mu bintu bimwe na bimwe bidafite inyungu . Ibi bishobora gutuma ugenda utandukana n’abakobwa ndetse kugira urukundo ruhamye bikazakugora.
3.Ntiwumva ko ujya ukosa
Mu gihe uhora wumva ibintu byose ukora uba uri mu kuri nta na rimwe uzigera ugira urukundo ruhamye ndetse abakobwa benshi bazagenda bakwanga ku buryo kubona umukunzi uhamye mu gihe utari wareka uwo muco bizakugora.
4.Wica amasezerano
Iki nacyo kijya gusa no kubeshya gusa hano turareba cyane ibintu uba wumvikanye n’umukunzi [ibyo uba wamusezeranije] gusa bikaza kurangira nta na kimwe ukoze, iyo umukobwa umubwiye ko uramukorera ikintu kabiri cyangwa gatatu ahita akugira nayubu ndetse akaba yakuzinukwa. Ibi iyo uri umusore ukabikora kenshi abakobwa bose barakumenya bikaba byakuviramo kuzabura umugore cyangwa kumubona bikakugora.
5.Wumva wakwigwizaho imitungo gusa
Umwanya munini uwumara urimo gushaka amafaranga , niba mu masaha 24 ndetse n’iminsi 7 igize icyumweru utakwigomwa amasaha make ngo uganirize umukunzi wawe bizakugora kugira urukundo ruhamye.
6.Wabaswe n’inzoga
Burya abakobwa banga kubi abahungu banywa inzoga bakarenza urugero by’umwihariko buriya abakobwa ntago bakunda abasore banywa itabi iryo ariryo ryose mu gihe ufite iyi myitwqarire gushinga urugo bizakubera ingorabahizi.
7.Ntuha agaciro ibyiyumviro by’umukobwa mukundana
Buri gihe iyo uri kumwe n’umukobwa mukundana ntiwumva amarangamutima ye ahubwo uhora umushihura mu byukuri nta munezero w’urukundo arabona muri wowe , ibi bizatuma utandukana n’abakobwa benshi ndetse bibe imvano yo kutagira urukundo ruhamye.
8.Urabeshya bya karande
Mu buzima kubeshya nta muntu utabyanga , ku bari n’abategarugori ho ni akarusho kuko iyo umubeshye kabiri agenda akuzinukwa mpaka umuvuye mu mutima burundu, rero abasore bumva bifuza kubaka ingo zikomeye kandi zifite ejo heza bagomba kwitondera iki kintu kuko gishobora gutuma bashobora kubura abagore kubera kubeshya bya buri gihe.
