HARAGIRIMANA Dieudonne
Abasore benshi barazwa ishinga no kumenye niba koko umukobwa abakunda bya nyabyo, hari igihe umukobwa akora ibikorwa runaka byerekana ko akunda umusore ariko ntabibone kuko atabizi. Muri rusange abasore bibaza ibagaragaza ko umukobwa abakunda.
Hari byinshi cyane biranga umukobwa ugukunda nyakuri yaba mu myitwarire, mu mivugire ndetse no mu mikorere. Bimwe mu bizakwereka ko umukobwa agukunda nyabyo bitarimo uburyarya ni ibi bikurikira:
1.Azagusaba ko musohokana
Ushobora kuba wari inshuti n’umukobwa bisanzwe, mukorana , mwigana, cyangwa se hari ibindi bintubyinshi muhuriramo, byazagera aho, ukumva atangiye kujya agusaba ko mwasohoka mwenyine . Mu by’ukuri aba ashaka ko hari icyo mwazaganiraho mwiherereye mutari muri rwaserera.
2.Akunda kukureba cyane
Amaso burya ni igice cy’umubiri kidasanzwe, kuko gitanga ubutumwa bwinshi mu bwonko bw’umuntu. Mu gihe rero umukobwa azaba yagukunze azahora ashaka kukwitegereza, cyane cyane nk’iyo umunyuzeho, iyo muri kumwe muganira, iyo mwahuriye nko mu birori, cyangwa ahandi hose hahuza abantu benshi. Cyane cyane nushaka kumureba uzabona ko muzajya mukunda guhuza amaso kenshi, agasa nk’uwijijisha akareba hirya.
3.Inseko
Umukobwa yagukunze ntiyifuza kukubona ubabaye na rimwe, bityo bigatuma yumva yakubwira amagambo agushimisha, kugira ngo akubone useka. Usanga kandi iyo yinjiye aho uri, murebana akamwenyura, ndetse ku buryo iyo munaganira acishamo agaseka ku tuntu tumwe na tumwe muba muganira, ngo akwereke ko akwitayeho cyane.
4.Ibimenyetso by’umubiri
Ibimenyetso by’umubiri bikunda kuvuga ibintu byinshi, ariko si abantu benshi bakunze kubisobanukirwa. Nubona umukobwa muhuye cyangwa yinjiye ahantu uri akakwicira akajisho atavuze, akagukubita agashyi, akagukora mu mugongo, akakwicara iruhande, n’ibindi byinshi, ujye umenya ko hari ikintu kidasanzwe arimo kukwereka.
5.Akunda kukuvuga
Mu by’ukuri nta mukobwa utagira ikigare (group), iyo bari kumwe rero bakunda kuganira ibintu byinshi, cyane cyane ntibashobora gutandukana batavuze ku ngingo y’abasore, baba incuti zabo cyangwa abo bakorana. Iyo bateruye icyo kiganiro rero, usanga umukobwa wagupfuye ahora agutanga ho ingero muri bagenzibe, icyo bavuze cyose akagisanisha nawe.
6. Azakoresha uko ashoboye mube kumwe
Burya iyo ukunda umuntu uba wunva mwahora muri kumwe cyane. Umukobwa rero iyo yakwikundiye, akoresha ibishoboka byose akajya aba ari aho nawe ukunda kujya, kandi mukaza kubonana. Urugero, nkiyo ukunda kujya kubyina, kureba umupira se, n’ahandi, usanga akunda kuhaza, kandi abacuti be bataha agasigarana nawe, mukavugana ho amagambo make gusa, akitahira.
7. Azakubwira ko Akunda Imico Yawe
Umukobwa nakubwira ko yikundira imico yawe, mbese nk’ukuntu ugenda, useka, ijwi, ubwitonzi, kwambara se, n’utundi tuntu twinshi tukwerekeyeho, azaba akubwiye ko agukunda. Nibwo buryo bwe azaba akoresheje kugira ngo akwereke ko yagukunze.
8.Akwereka ko akwitayeho
Burya umukobwa wagukunze, aba ashaka kukwereka ko ariwe muntu ukwitayeho kurusha abandi. Nkiyo murikumwe na bagenzi banyu, usanga akunganira mu bintu byose uvuga, bakubaza nk’ikibazo nawe akagushyigikira, wavuga ikintu akakunganira, kandi akagerageza kwereka abandi ko uvuze ibintu bifite akamaro.
9. Akunda kukugira Inama z’Ubuzima
Niba umukobwa yarakubengutse uzajya wumva arimo kukugira inama z’ubuzima, akwereka icyo wakora ngo witeze imbere n’icyo utagomba gukora. Ibi kandi nta wanya munini bizamutwara, kuko azabikubwira igihe muzaba muganira.
10.Aragufuhira
Gufuha ni ibintu bigirwa na benshi, cyane cyane iyo bakundana, kandi usanga umuntu ufuhira undi, aba amukunda koko by’ukuri. Iyo umukobwa rero mumaze kumenyerana, muganira bisanzwe, ushobora kutamenya ko yagukunze. Ariko nubona akunda kukubaza niba umukobwa runaka ari inshuti yawe, cyangwa akakubaza icyo upanga n’umukobwa yigeze kubabonana, uzamenye ko burya atabikunda, ahubwo aba ashaka ko ari we wenyine wakikundira.
