Ibi bimenyetso bizakwereka ko uri mu rukundo rw’agahararo( nubibona uzahite uruvamo hakirikare)

1. Uru rukundo rw’agahararo nta ntambwe rutera n’iyo rwayitera ruba rugira ngo rwigerere kuri bimwe mu byo rwakurikiye nk’ubutunzi cyangwa se igitsina. Aha ni hamwe ukunda azajya akosereza mugenzi we nabimubwira yumve ntacyo bimutwaye, nta mbabazi yamusaba cyangwa ngo yihatire kwihana iryo kosa ubutazarisubira. Naramuka amusabye imbabazi ntazabikorera kuko yumva yahemukiye mugenzi we, ahubwo azazimusabira kugira ngo icyo amutezeho atagihagarika.
2.Urukundo rw’agahararo ruba rufite impamvu ariko zishingira cyane ku kwikunda.
3. Urwo rukundo rutuma umuntu atabona aho undi afite intege nke n’ibyiza afite rukabikabiriza bigatuma ushobora gukomeza .
4. Iyo havutse akabazo gato hagati y’abakundana, uru rukundo ruhita ruhagarara, mbese urukundo rw’agahararo ntiruzi kwihangana.
5. Urukundo rw’agahararo rugendera ku marangamutima y’abandi ntirwigera rwifatira icyemezo aha akenshi rugendera no kuko abantu babona umukunzi wawe mugihe murikumwe cyangwe muri ku muvugaho n’inshuti zawe.
6.Urukundo rw’agahararo rubuza amahoro. Kuko ruba rwarakurikiye imimerere igaragara inyuma nk’uburanga cyane cyane, imyambarire n’ubutunzi. Iyo ibyo byose uwari wabikurikiye atakiri kubibona kuri mugenzi we atangira kubura amahoro yibaza uburyo agiye kwishakira abandi babifite ndetse anibaza uko agiye kuruvamo n’uwo utakiri kumugaragarira nka mbere.
7.Uru rukundo ruba rushingiye gusa ku byo umuntu yashimye ku wundi bigaragara inyuma cyangwe bigaragarira mu butunzi.

Nunjya mu rukundo njya wibuka ko urukundo ari magirirane niba witaye ku muntu ningobwa ngo nawe akwiteho.
8. Urukundo rw’agahararo nta kuri rugira, ruriyoberanya, rurirarira. Guhishanya biraruranga,urufite ntiyigera yumva yakwiyereka mugenzi we uko ari, ahora yirata ibyo afite n’ibyo adafite yaba imitungo, imibereho n’amateka y’ubuzima akurikije uko abona mugenzi we, nubwo ashobora kuba amwibeshyaho.