Abashakashatsi bagaraje ko abadamu cyangwa abakobwa hari igihe bataryoherwa n’imibonano mpuza bitsina, arinabyo biviramo benshi gucana inyuma.
Gusa hari byinshi wakora kugirango ujye ubonana n’umugore wawe abikunze kandi anyurwe:
.. igihe cyose ntugatungure umugore, ahubwo ujye ubanza utegure, nko kumubwira utugambo turyohereye, n’ibindi.
.. Ujye umuha icyo ashaka kandi ku gihe.
.. Ujye ukunda kumutunguza imoano
.. Ujye ukunda kumusohokana
.. Ujye ukunda kumuha umwanya kandi umuganirize kenshi muri mwenyine
.. Ntugashake ko hari icyo mukora ahonje